Me went clubbing (again) last nite. 2 those who always thot & 4eva will be thinking clubbing is sumting outraged n digress, I beg 2 differ. Their reason(s) cud be becuz they assume all clubbers r alcoholic-affiliated n they can’t be convinced dat not all of club lovers, love to drink too. N me one of em
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
In fact, clubbing cud be viewed in a positive way, I submit. Its an avenue for u 2 enjoy, 2 have a bit of fun, 4getting da s*** @ ur workplace. It’s a place 4 u to release the tension (which relatively similar wif da first reason)
Haihzzzzzzzzz
N its also a platform 2 build n 2 broaden da existing networking by exchanging issues n opinions about everything. N dat ‘everything’ really cud be everything. Life – success – failures – love – friendship – career and even SEX
Yeah, u read it rite, babe.
So after went clubbing yday wif my high skewl mates, we spent hours sitting in a ‘mamak’ restraunt n guess wat?? We talked about “true love” (euwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww) but dat topic per se, made us stay 4 hours wif countlessly add-up teh tarik* (debating cud b thirsty)
LOL
So,why true love is hard to find?
Why izzit too gud to be true?
Izzit just a myth, a fantasy dat will never happen in da world of realilty?
Ever since small, I’ve been indoctrinated bout ‘true love’ fantasy. Da estranged couple wud definitely meet their true love even they av 2 wait long. ‘True love’ eventually happens but it comes wif battle of tears, belief and hope along a miserable period in between.
N I’m wondering is true love really exist in dis world?
Each and every1 of us has revealed our own stories a.k.a our epics of love since we firstly knew bout love. Shud I say since high skewl? LOL
N all of da stories ended wif disappointment n frustration. Even how much we’ve put our effort in sustaining da relationship, they still encountered da dead-end.
Perhaps, by putting too much expectation 4 a true love, we end up nothing. But I always telling myself dat I just want sumbody who can understand me, who accept me 4 who I am
… who can shower me wif unconditional love n care
… who can stand beside me no matter succeed or srewed I am in life
… who can lend me a shoulder to lean on and ears to listen
… who will still look up on me even da whole world turns its back to me.
… who can inspire me, even how f***ed up life I am aving, dat person will say “its alrite babe. everything will b alrite n we can go thru dis 2gether”
Dats all FULL STOP
( I dun want ur face, ur shape, ur money or all of ur time )
N true love isn’t sumting u can buy neither sumting u can sell. It comes sincerely from an honest feeling.
N why till now I am yet 2 have (even) one?
Ppl look admirably on me as they thot I got everything dat I wanted. Excellent education abroad, gud job, reasonable pay n loads of fabulous n fantastic buddies n studs around.
But deep in my heart, I am just an ordinary lonely boy who still need 2 love n 2 b loved =)
à best song 2 describe me : ‘Lucky’ by Britney Spears
In short, da discussion was concluded wif few resolutions :-
1) da time hasn’t cum yet. God has destined dat true love has to wait.
2) Its all about meeting da rite person @ da rite time. Till we actually meet dat person, we shall never loose hope on LOVE.
3) There’s alwiz a sumbody 4 everybody. Dis is encapsulated by my previous supervisor Yvonne during my summer job (back in da UK)
But still, I cudnt help meself from feeling envious staring @ couples, holding hands n portraying their romance n happiness. ( OMG statement gersang ya amats nih ) haha. May they stay 2gether, till da day they leave dis world.
N I hope my time will come to me ….. soon
@ nites I cry.
* da most fav drink to all who call themselves as ‘Malaysians.’
19 comments:
Hey zacky... Dun worry so much about true love.. Here're a few things to think about
1. Noone deserves your tears, and those who do will never make you cry. (Don't you cry at night, you'll always be in someones heart)
2. Just because someone doesn't love you as you wish it, it doesn't mean you're not loved by someone else. (You'll always be loved ^^)
3. The worst way to miss someone is to be next to him/her and knowing you'll never be together. (Never miss that chance because opportunities are like sunrises, once you miss them, they're gone)
4. You may only be a person in this world, but for someone, you're the world. (Never forget that)
5. Maybe God wants you to meet many wrong people before you meet the right one, so when this happens, you'll be thankful.(This is my philosophy =p)
6. Don't ever cry when it comes to an end, smile because it happened. (Dunno where I got this from...)
7. There will always be people who will hurt you, so you need to continue to be trusting. Just be careful. =) (This applies to you)
8. ***Don't struggle so much, best things happen when they are not expected!!***
^^ So much for true love~ Hehe.
Your (not-so-gud) student,
~Jun Nee~
Love is complicated. it's not always happy, sweet, or wonderful. i believe that u'll only find love when u've gone through a LOT of bad times. sure there're things like love at first sight and all that but its complete bull.
in my case, i had the same exact mindset that i'll find the "right" one. but it takes time, and till now, i dont think i've found my mr. right yet. u need to be able to trust each other in a relationship.
and girls, if u EVER suspect something about ur bf, DUMP HIS SORRY ASS IMMEDIATELY. u never know wat he's up to. the best guys are the ones that will respect u, and give u time of the day. if he doesnt, dump him hard, cuz HE'S the one who's gonna have a hard time finding a new gf. NOT YOU.
communication is the essence of a relationship. if there is none, then it shouldn't even be called a relationship.
and yes, i do agree that u need someone who understands u in a relationship and not care about what u look like, etc. u need a partner who can always be there as a friend to listen to u and talk to u. if ur bf/gf cant do that or doesnt want to talk or listen to u, dump him/her and seek comfort from a friend. its all about how u handle relationships. there has to be commitment, trust, understanding, and communication. so, find someone that understands u, start off as friends, and only make a move when u know that its the right time.
just my opinion on love =)
Jun nee @ Nee Nee,
I must admit upon looking at your quotes, i started to be motivated and keep on striving to meeting the one. those are very fulfilling indeed.even those are not directly urs but i take dat u really meant it to be said to me. as for dat i thank u from da bottom of my broken-but-healing heart.
LOL
but they are all true. we humans tend to forget da other side of da life and always stay on one of depressing side. we forget to enjoy da beauty of life when we are facing da sorrow life gives. we forget dat after of every rain, God draws us a an interweave colours of da rainbow.
n they all apply 2 u too. knowing u, i know u cant escape from love dilemma and probs. so whenever u feel dat 'sumone is leaving u' u will never walk alone.
thanks dear. even a zillion thanks wudnt able to pay for all da words u've written to me. i vow dat no matter wat happens - single or in a relatioship, i will never spend a drop of tears on love n frenship. i wud only cry for sumting dat deserves my tears..(^_^)
You are truly a gud student, indeed
love always,
zacky
dear star,
thanks for sharing ur experience and ur findings on da topic discussed. i wish u able to find da one as ur patience will eventually be rewarded by God. Ppl say, patience is a virtue. I pray dat virtues will come watever wat may to u, giving u love and care by sumone who deserves to be loved by u.
wow, u r truly an iron lady. u can easily dump sumone's ass without any hesiatation n deliberation. u go gurl. if da man sing a song ' no woman no cry ' dere u go - a female-frendly version of 'no man no tears' LOL
no doubt, having sumone dat understands u da most in life is a blessing. Its a simple criteria but da hardest to get. how many on dis earth refuse to understand each other, thinking n expecting their couples are da one who must understand them.
n if i may add-up onto dis point, understanding a person will never be a destination. its an ongoing journey where everyday u'll be discovering sumting niu 2 learn from ur soulmate. even a husband (who've been married more than a half-of-century) cudnt claim he knows his well everything in and out. dats bull.
but we will keep on learning and discovering our soulmates day by day till dere will be no day for us 2 do breath. OMG am i too philosophic? trying not to be a phylo ere.
wat say u? waiting ur comments impatiently... LOL
XXX
Dear Zokhri...do u know that..in this world..there's many things that r unpredictable...when u dun expect it 2happen..it'll just happened..out of the blue....which at times makes us feel...n wondering all the time...TRUE LOVE is the key every individuals heart..Belive it..n it does exist..Some ppl might be thinking that ...they want 2have what kind of guy/gal when they were young.but when the grow up...everything just tend 2change...n they ended up with a person whom is totally different from wat they required 2have as their ideal partner when they were young...:)...so..the samr thing applies 2each everyone of us...U r still young my dear friend...perhaps...i might not know those problems that u've2face in ur daily life..n these problems will probably lead u2feel lonely...facing problem in workplace is unavoidable..all those pressure n stress u got...makes u feel lonely n need someone2be with u n share ur sorrows with u..at times u just cant take it..n feel like breaking into tears...n this is the time where u need someone 2lend u her shoulder4 u 2lean on...am i right??Yes..u have all ur true friends@students 2support u...but...having a person dat u love by ur side is definitely a v.different feeling...bcud u love her...n dats all u wan when ur down...ive encountered that before..n yes...it's painful...extremely suffering...However Zokhri,true love will always be waiting4 u in front..just dat u dun know...bcus we're not the GOD...al u need is time...dun be rush in looking 4gf..bcus in order2develope this kind of special feeling..it needs time...Yes maybe when u see other couples holding hands...u might feel lonely..n wondering...when will ur true love appear..sigh again..this kind of feeling is really painful..Do u know..true love will appear when the time is right...even if now..u've a gf ..this doesn't mean that she will be the one in ur whole life...perhaps..u might be having more than 1 gf...n might be dating several times right until u meet the right one 4 u...all this is unpredictable...being in a relationship is good in the eyes of those who r single..but..that's only when u meet a good one..At times..when i see those couples who ill treated their gf/bf...i feel sorry 4them...if this is 2 happen...so why not just remain single...right???Better than to cry day n night bcus of those arguments between the couples...don't u think so??Everyone will meet the love of their life ..it's all fated..so just wait patiently...u know...one thing special about true love...is the process of knowing each other until they get together...undergoing all those obstacles 2gether...all these will definitely help2keep the couple2remain strong no matter wat happens in future..so...Pls do rmb...no matter wat..dun be rush in looking ur love...if that person is urs...he/she will definitely be urs...n once u get into a relationship...always remember that...tolerance is very important 2keep the relationship goes on smoothly n happily..we've 2try to understand each other whenever there's a need2do so...cus it'll not be possible4only one party 2tolerate right??It works out both ways...:)...alright..this is such a long comment..ive to go n start studying legal ady...CT2 !!gosh...lastly..wish u all the best friend...no matter wat holds u in future..u'll still have our support...all the best...take care
Regards,
Aggie
actually, im not saying its easy to dump ur partner, especially when a couple has gone through a lot of ups and downs. but in my case, its mostly all down.. but girls should ALWAYS act on ur instints, my instints proved me RIGHT everytime i suspected something of my ex. after many months of despair, i finally had the courage to walk away from the relationship. it was hard, but neccessary because the ppl who are closest to me told me that i dont deserve someone like that. but now, my prob is i think it WAS love and i just walked away from it. i never believed in a thing called love, i never knew what it was and everytime someone says that word i always have a look of distaste on my face. ppl often say, when u realize that u love someone, dont walk away so easily cuz love never happens too often.
in my opinion, u shud always find someone that loves u genuinely. not for any other reasons. i think there are many types of love. what i discovered was, there's a type of love that will make u feel like u can never let go of ur partner, even when u break up, it takes a hard time to let go. u'd still often abt them and want them by ur side every waking moment. u'll still want to hear from them from time to time, worry if they get into trouble, care and think abt them everyday.
another would be, u love them so much u dunno how to live without them. its like a couple breaking up because they start to hate each other, they argue every single day, but deep down they love each other so much but they dunno how to express it. kinda like a love/hate relationship.
but for me, the best kinda love u can find is when u meet someone u find interesting. u find them fragile and have this huge urge to take care of them, not wanting them to get hurt, not wanting them to cry. u have to think hard and ask urself, what if something bad happened to this person u supposedly like? what would u do? what if he/she got into an accident and is physically injurred? would u still like him/her? would u still want to take care of him/her? can u still accept the way he/she is?
there's a very thin line between love and infatuation. u have to make sure ur feelings are genuine and sincere b4 ur willing to put in ur commitment in a relationship. that has been my motto and believe all this while. cuz i dun really believe in serial dating =P
and thnx for the reply!
Hehe... Well Zacky u know me... XD I'll always have as you said "love dilemma and probs"~ The first breakup was horrible... Cried the whole night to sleep and didn't get up the next day and stuff. But time will heal every broken or "broken-but-healing" heart~ ^^
Also when I thought about it, I felt that it wasn't worth it being upset over something that has already past and that cannot be changed or altered. Good to hear ur motivated by da way~
And sweetie, anything that deserves your tears won't make you cry. So no tears kay? =)
~huggies~
Love always,
Junnie (apparently a pretty good student) ;]
Dear mysterious gurl, (who no longer a mystery 2 me)
i thank u for ur comment and enlighten thots. its true unpreditable things do happen in life. n we always be taught dat love comes when it cums it goes when it goes even da heart n mind strongly disagree with it. it exists without force and we da mortal human isnt in control to decided when it shud cum and when it shud leave.
admitted, saying is much easier than understanding and feeling it. i find it hard at times to accept dis contention as a truth. perhaps im too expecting and hoping to the max. n knowing all of my hopes remain as hope, i started to surrender and go on in life without love as da main agenda (even everyone knows da power of love is irresistable)
me had an experience too. things changed as we grow wiser (slash older) LOL we just prepare and free up our minds accepting watever comes in our destiny.
how true, perhaps by engaging a lot in work and pressure makes my heart cry for love. i just need a company who can share my daily stories n just to let me know, despite an awful day happened at workplace, ive sumone to turn to. of course me and u and together with others can lend our support to each other but at times, u just want to have dat 'sumone'
(o o am i rumbling non-sense ere?) lol
but dear dont u realise dat waiting itself is enduring hurt and pain to urself? perhaps had da fact i remain in da uk, i wont be whining much cuz dere's sumting i can enjoy and hold on to. but stranded in Malaysia (which apparently to be my hometown) is sumting unbearable and u tend to find faults around. shame on me. LOL
in conclusion, time tells and we shalt let time and faith decide for us. it comes naturally when it supposed to come n we shudnt be rushing into sumting which is not meant for us (just yet)
yeah me got to do work 4 legals too. got to set mid year exams for legals. plus .. got to prepare da marking scheme, finalising CPT, updating my research and notes n obviously LECTURING U N OTHERS.
HAIHHZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Love,
xxx
Dear Star,
Points taken with no further argument =) just feel oblige to response to em as our task is to enlighten ASIGNOFTHECREATOR'S readers about love and how they shud handle situation as such.
true, even we've been left in utter despair and despondency after each break-ups, we'll still able to pass da days with da remaining strength n hope. till today, we r able to feel proud of ourselves becuz we had underwent such tormenting period in life. of course, da more that u love a person, da more hurt u gonna suffer shud it meets an end.
i submit to agree dat its true to find sumone who loves us genuinely and unconditionally. da thing remain unsloved is, wud it be possible to have one? everyone dreams to have a genuine lover with all of da humbleness and loyalty, but truth be told, most of human (gurls n boys) are lacking on dat in dis urban and wild days.
i dun know wat type of love did i received from my ex. all i know i showered my relationship with sincerity and honesty. even by doing dat, u cant tell n be sure da person is doing da same to u?
(^_^) n dats da hardest part - to deserve sumting 'rewarding' after all da things u've done.
last but not least, allow my to answer ur questions. had the fact i met sumone dat i really love n sumting bad happened to dat person.
what would u do?
I'll stay beside him/her
what if he/she got into an accident and is physically injurred?
so wats da prob? he/she might physically affected and changed, but if da hard change never, why shud i be running away?
would u still like him/her?
I would
would u still want to take care of him/her?
i wud still want to
can u still accept the way he/she is?
yes i can because all i want is a true love from a true heart.
i dun believe in serial dating too =)
waiting ur reply
xxx
jun nee dearie,
we all grow thru experience soon when we reach da line, we know wat to react da best with ongoing probs in life. certainly, dere is no fast-track rule on how to act wise, it emerged from our personal experience and observation in life.
wats done is done (cant be changed) but da future still lies in our hands for us to draw, to shape and to write our destiny in it.
cant really promise u dat dere will be no more tears,but i'll strive hard only to cry when sumone deserves my tears. dat cud be more worthwhile and meaningful.
hugs n kisses,
u always a gud student to me
What is love? Can you define it? In my dictionary there's no such thing as love....It's a lie....A horrible horrible lie that we create to possess someone...To want them by your side....Isn't that such a selfish act? For instance to fall in love the person you admire must have something that attracts you to them such as looks, body, brains...whatever...But just think, if at first glance the person has a horrible physical attribute would you even want to make the first move to really get to know the person instead of judging them by their looks???
Whatever it is that binds families and married couples together, that's not love. That's stupidity or selfishness or fear. Self interest exists, attachment based on personal gain exists, complaisancy exists. But not love. Love has to be reinvented.
What are the chances that the person you love will love you back? And not getting their love....Don't you think its just so heartbreaking? And just what can this "love" do about it? NOTHING
Love is a lie
Love is painful
Love is holding in your cries
Love is tears falling down
Like rain from a window
Love is accepting what will never be changed
Love is a screaming sadness trapped inside
Breaking lose only to show your great pain
Only to explain the torment you feel
Love is just another road to satisfaction
Love is a bleeding heart with no tourniquet
Love is never truthful, never honest
Love is a few moments of joy and days of pain
Love is something I wish could be more pure
Love is not what it should be
Love is a weapon, used so wrongly
If love is all these things
Then, tell me, is it really love?
Dear anonymous,
I thank you for enlightening your departure opinion from others in dis forum. it is indeed based on wat u felt from ur own expeerience and observation. n i urge the rest not to put the blame on her experience but try to understand it from a different point of view.
i wudnt deny by saying dat love invites reasons to it. u cant simply and fall in love with every mortals created by Lord on dis earth. dere must be reason(s) dat attratcs sumone to fall in love. realitically gudlooks,shape n personality or even money are da popular factors dat attract sumone to love.
but then my dear,
lemme put it dis way. its true life gurantees nothing to us in da end. in every single thing dat we take and we undergo, dere lies risk2 for us to bear. dats wat life is all about - taking da risk of everything. risk cud be a success and cud also be a failure - true-
but isnt it dat if u failed after trying is far honour than failing without doing a thing?
=)
xxx
abg wan, are u in love?
hmm...
reading this makes me feel like...
oh no. i knew u are in love!
u better tell me the truth ok.
love fr moscow~
Dear Sarah Mohd Shukor,
no i am not =)
well it shows dat wat u felt wasnt true n dere's nothing the truth 2 tell u
love u always everywhere and anywhere,
xxx
O_O Zokhri in love?
WHO? =p
… who can shower me wif unconditional love n care
… who can stand beside me no matter succeed or srewed I am in life
… who can lend me a shoulder to lean on and ears to listen
… who will still look up on me even da whole world turns its back to me.
… who can inspire me, even how f***ed up life I am aving, dat person will say “its alrite babe. everything will b alrite n we can go thru dis 2gether”
Dats all FULL STOP
quotation from ur own words Mr Zacky..
salaam 'Aleyka..
d only answer for all such things dat u r looking for is~~ALLAH swt.
Everything single thing comes from Allah swt, including da kononnnye-true-love dat u're looking for..
Allah'saying in al-Quran: surah an-Nisa':77.
think bout it. He's da MOST GIVING, THe MOST LOVING, DA MOST GENEROUS, DA MOST KNOWING..HE'S THE GREATEST EVER.
Dont u realise dat Mr Zacky?.
Mahabbatullah is the best love ever..
Love ur creator before u look for any other love..inSyaallah, once u find the greatest love, u'll meet somebody who's da most perfect and the best for u in diz non-permenant lyf.
Remember Allah every single moment, anywhere u r, as Allah stated in da Holy QURAN:
an-Nisa':103
mafhumnya: ...ingatlah Allah ketika kamu berdiri, pada waktu duduk dan ketika berbaring..'
Insyaallah...lelaki yg jahat untuk perempuan yang jahat..lelaki yg baik untuk perempuan yg baik..
I'll pray for u,may u find the right girl in ur life...
Jazakallahukhair..salaam
… who can shower me wif unconditional love n care
… who can stand beside me no matter succeed or srewed I am in life
… who can lend me a shoulder to lean on and ears to listen
… who will still look up on me even da whole world turns its back to me.
… who can inspire me, even how f***ed up life I am aving, dat person will say “its alrite babe. everything will b alrite n we can go thru dis 2gether”
Dats all FULL STOP
quotation from ur own words Mr Zacky..
salaam 'Aleyka..
d only answer for all such things dat u r looking for is~~ALLAH swt.
Everything single thing comes from Allah swt, including da kononnnye-true-love dat u're looking for..
Allah'saying in al-Quran: surah an-Nisa':77.
think bout it. He's da MOST GIVING, THe MOST LOVING, DA MOST GENEROUS, DA MOST KNOWING..HE'S THE GREATEST EVER.
Dont u realise dat Mr Zacky?.
Mahabbatullah is the best love ever..
Love ur creator before u look for any other love..inSyaallah, once u find the greatest love, u'll meet somebody who's da most perfect and the best for u in diz non-permenant lyf.
Remember Allah every single moment, anywhere u r, as Allah stated in da Holy QURAN:
an-Nisa':103
mafhumnya: ...ingatlah Allah ketika kamu berdiri, pada waktu duduk dan ketika berbaring..'
Insyaallah...lelaki yg jahat untuk perempuan yang jahat..lelaki yg baik untuk perempuan yg baik..
I'll pray for u,may u find the right girl in ur life...
Jazakallahukhair..salaam
… who can shower me wif unconditional love n care
… who can stand beside me no matter succeed or srewed I am in life
… who can lend me a shoulder to lean on and ears to listen
… who will still look up on me even da whole world turns its back to me.
… who can inspire me, even how f***ed up life I am aving, dat person will say “its alrite babe. everything will b alrite n we can go thru dis 2gether”
Dats all FULL STOP
quotation from ur own words Mr Zacky..
salaam 'Aleyka..
d only answer for all such things dat u r looking for is~~ALLAH swt.
Everything single thing comes from Allah swt, including da kononnnye-true-love dat u're looking for..
Allah'saying in al-Quran: surah an-Nisa':77.
think bout it. He's da MOST GIVING, THe MOST LOVING, DA MOST GENEROUS, DA MOST KNOWING..HE'S THE GREATEST EVER.
Dont u realise dat Mr Zacky?.
Mahabbatullah is the best love ever..
Love ur creator before u look for any other love..inSyaallah, once u find the greatest love, u'll meet somebody who's da most perfect and the best for u in diz non-permenant lyf.
Remember Allah every single moment, anywhere u r, as Allah stated in da Holy QURAN:
an-Nisa':103
mafhumnya: ...ingatlah Allah ketika kamu berdiri, pada waktu duduk dan ketika berbaring..'
Insyaallah...lelaki yg jahat untuk perempuan yang jahat..lelaki yg baik untuk perempuan yg baik..
I'll pray for u,may u find the right girl in ur life...
Jazakallahukhair..salaam
It is remarkable, rather valuable message
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